Your privacy and safety

Why require MitID?

The plan is to check that each member is a real adult and has only one account. MitID is Denmark's electronic ID. It could help make throwaway scam accounts harder to create, but it wouldn't prove that someone is kind or trustworthy. The service would be for people aged 18 and over.

Would everyone see my legal name?

No. You could choose the name shown on your dating profile. Your legal identity would be kept separately with tightly limited access, rather than being shown to other members.

Could I try it before verifying?

The planned trial lasts up to five days. You could prepare a profile and browse a separate group of other trial users. You couldn't see verified members, exchange messages or make a Like visible. You could choose one checked photo for other trial users to see. You could upload more, but those extra pictures would stay private until you were verified and chose to share them. After the trial, you could keep preparing your profile and verify later.

Is MitID connected already?

No. Early tests would use fictional profiles and a clearly labelled “MitID registration” button that only pretends to complete verification. Real MitID integration would come after the other functions work. There's no account registration on this website yet.

Do I have to put every answer on my profile?

No. You could make some answers public, use others privately to help find suitable people, and leave questions unanswered. A private answer must stay private, even when it affects a suggestion. The service shouldn't hint at it in an explanation or an AI summary.

Can I change my mind about who sees something?

Yes. You should be able to see who you've given access to and take that access away. Hiding a profile must stop new browsing access straight away; existing matches could keep a limited view of the profile you had shared. Blocking someone or withdrawing a specific permission must stop the affected access immediately. It can't erase a screenshot somebody has already taken, so choosing what to share still matters.

Would people know I've looked at them or passed them over?

The plan has no profile-visit notifications. Choices such as Not now or Hard No would stay private, as would the reason somebody wasn't shown to you. Online and last-seen status would start off hidden.

Could I download my information and leave?

Yes. You should be able to get a copy of your own information and close your account, which would remove you from browsing immediately. We're also planning a protected file you could keep yourself to restore your own profile details later, after fresh identity verification. It wouldn't bring back chats, Likes or someone else's consent. The restore format, expiry and limited records needed to recognise it still need to be settled.

You could also hide all your profiles while keeping the account and its history. You could still talk to existing matches, even if you both hid every profile. With no active profile, you wouldn't appear in browsing or start new searches and Likes. The profile guide explains taking a break.

Would photos, profile text and messages be checked?

Yes. The plan includes checks for scams, threats and unwanted explicit content. Pictures would be checked before being shown, and hidden file details such as unnecessary location information would be removed. Profile text needing a correction would stay private while you review the problem. The system could suggest wording, but it wouldn't quietly rewrite your profile.

Could I choose to receive explicit messages?

You could choose to allow sexual language from particular people, or set a rule for people you've liked or matched with. It would be off by default. Only someone covered by your permission would see a small indicator in that chat, with a clear label. You could withdraw permission at any time. Allowing sexual language wouldn't turn off checks for scams or threats.

Would AI decide who's a good person?

No. AI would help check content and flag possible problems. It mustn't guess your ethnicity, attractiveness or mental health, or give you a public score. Automated checks can miss abuse and can also get innocent text wrong.

What if a check gets it wrong?

You could ask for another review rather than keep changing perfectly reasonable text. That could mean another local model or a human reviewer. Serious decisions need understandable reasons and a way to appeal. Human review and response times still need to be worked out before opening; one developer with a full-time job can't promise instant answers.

Would my content go to an outside AI company?

Checks would normally run on the service's own systems. An exceptional outside review would need an approved service, a clear explanation of what would be sent and your permission for that item. Another person's private messages couldn't be sent just because you agreed. If you declined, the human-review route would remain available.

Could I let a friend know I'm okay during a date?

That's the idea behind Safe Date. You could arrange check-in reminders and ask a trusted person to receive certain alerts. They would have to agree to that role. You could also use it just as a reminder for yourself.

What if I forget to check in?

A missed check-in wouldn't automatically mean you're in danger. You might have a flat battery or simply be enjoying the conversation. An alert would explain what was missed and when the service last heard from you. A deliberate alarm or danger word would take a faster route.

Would it track me or call the police?

There would be no automatic police call. Location sharing would be a separate choice, limited to the active date and kept only briefly. Normal use wouldn't record the sounds around you. The service would also have to tell you honestly if it couldn't deliver an alert.

Can I rely on it yet?

No. Safe Date is still an idea, with legal, safety and practical questions to work through. It isn't an emergency service or a guarantee that a date is safe.